When Giving Is Not What You Expected

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Has this ever happened to you? It starts with a prayer…

“Ok, God. I’m ready to give! I’m ready to serve my community and my neighbors. So let’s get started! I bet you want me to help that single mom, don’t you? And that older lady with her dogs? And the young couple upstairs with two dogs and a baby on the way? Just let me know when and I’ll get started.”

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

Days, weeks, and months go by. A seemingly unanswered, but intentional prayer is replaced by life’s responsibilities.

Then, something starts to happen. Continue reading

One Way to Stop the Crazy Cycle

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Every day is a new opportunity in our marriage for the Crazy Cycle to make an appearance. It’s ugly, vengeful, and has no plans of ever leaving for good. You know what I’m talking about… She says something snarky about unfinished laundry. He says he washed it so she should dry it. She starts naming off a completed chores list like it’s a resume, and no one is happy about anything. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs defines the Crazy Cycle as an “endless cycle of negative reactions when couples try to resolve conflicts.”

One way my husband has taught me to fight the negativity that the cycle creates is with humor. I refer to it as “calling me out on my (or his) crazy.” If I get annoyed that something isn’t put away, it will either end up in my work bag or under my pillow. If I leave a post-it note for him with a “To Do,” I come home to post-its all over the apartment (ALL over).

Why is this a wonderful way to break the negativity? Because you can’t be mad at someone for long when they make you laugh. :) It breaks the tension, causes you to relax in a place that probably hurts, and encourages you to be creative in similar silly ways.

Here are some of the ways my husband has broken the Crazy Cycle in just the past few days: Continue reading

Debt Free Bohons

Well, I admit this update is waaayy overdue, but better late than never, right? :)

Remember our “Debt Free by Christmas” goal turned “Debt Free by Thanksgiving” goal turned “May Needs to Find a Job” goal? Yes, that was a fun 3-month season. :) It was the best time I ever had being unemployed {only because we already had a plan})!

Well, I am happy to announce that by the grace of God, WE’RE DEBT FREEEEEEE!!!!

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Public Service Announcement

Dear friends,

This is a Public Service Announcement. If you live in an area that gets below freezing in the winter {or you live in Texas where this only happens once a year}, remember to let your faucets drip so your downstairs apartment neighbors don’t wake up to this the next morning. Continue reading

Fear Punch Friday: Puppy Love <3

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If you follow me on Instagram, you already know about Dawn (AKA #instaDawn). She’s my… I mean, she’s our 6-year-old lab mix and this morning I’m taking her in for surgery. Continue reading

Happy Veteran’s Day!

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Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13

 

Happy Veteran’s Day to all the veterans and military families! I know you don’t like to be recognized, but you certainly deserve it! We take for granted what you sacrifice daily. Thank you for your service!

Happy Veteran’s Day to my favorite vet: Jerod. He accomplished many great things while in the Army, most of which he’ll never tell you about. I remember writing him letters while he was in Iraq and celebrating his return with a homemade picnic and concert on the lawn (we were still just friends, you see). Continue reading

You Find Out Who Your Friends Are

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It’s been said that you know who your real friends are by how they react to dramatic changes in your life. Well, this week has been a great example of that!

I’m in between jobs right now (all is well and we were prepared for this thanks to FPU) and the amount of support that has poured in has been wonderful! Former coworkers who are still friends have reached out to say they miss me. People from the group formerly know as the START Experiment have helped me with resume crafting, cover letter drafting and LinkedIn rebuilding.

My friends have also sent me numerous job openings and ideas to help me pursue my dreams. They even encouraged me to apply for a scholarship o attend Bob Goff‘s Love Does Conference in Austin, Texas.

Well, guess what. I won!! My friends already attending offered to pick me up on their way down from Oklahoma and we are staying with more friends right outside of Austin.

We’re actually en route right now and can’t wait to be united with the rest of the group!

It’s going to be amazing and I can’t wait to tell you all about it! Thanks again for all the support (you know who you are!) and encouragement to continue pursuing my dreams! :) I couldn’t do it without you. <3

Now, that being said, I want to pay the blessings forward. How can I help YOU? How can I support your dreams?

Let me know on the comments below!

My New Favorite Song: Pilot Me by Josh Garrels

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One of my new favorite songs as of late is Josh Garrels’ “Pilot Me.” I discovered it on the DREAMERS Playlist (formerly the Start Experiment Playlist) and was instantly hooked! Continue reading