One Way to Stop the Crazy Cycle

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Every day is a new opportunity in our marriage for the Crazy Cycle to make an appearance. It’s ugly, vengeful, and has no plans of ever leaving for good. You know what I’m talking about… She says something snarky about unfinished laundry. He says he washed it so she should dry it. She starts naming off a completed chores list like it’s a resume, and no one is happy about anything. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs defines the Crazy Cycle as an “endless cycle of negative reactions when couples try to resolve conflicts.”

One way my husband has taught me to fight the negativity that the cycle creates is with humor. I refer to it as “calling me out on my (or his) crazy.” If I get annoyed that something isn’t put away, it will either end up in my work bag or under my pillow. If I leave a post-it note for him with a “To Do,” I come home to post-its all over the apartment (ALL over).

Why is this a wonderful way to break the negativity? Because you can’t be mad at someone for long when they make you laugh. :) It breaks the tension, causes you to relax in a place that probably hurts, and encourages you to be creative in similar silly ways.

Here are some of the ways my husband has broken the Crazy Cycle in just the past few days: Continue reading

My 2013 Year in Review

Hi friends, I hope you had a wonderful New Year’s Eve and are excited about 2014! My 2013 was definitely one for the books! Here’s a rundown of the high points:

Weird wedding dreams

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{via} Ok, brides and brides-to-be, the weird wedding dreams have stopped for now, but I am 100% confident that they will return. Here is a rough list of mine so far: The Ex-Boyfriends These are expected, right? My brain is … Continue reading

Happy birthday, Jerod! <3

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Today is my fiance’s 30th Birthday! This means a lot to us because: His 30’s will be awesome! It’s the 14th Anniversary of us meeting at his 16th birthday pool party {I still have my swimsuit} We’re so excited about … Continue reading

The 14-year movie

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Well, it finally happened: Jerod & I are engaged! ♥

Some of you have been watching this movie for 14 years. One of you “called it” the day we met at his 16th birthday pool party. Some of you have only been watching it for a few years, but can recite the story from the beginning. Many of you finally had hope when we started dating 2+ years ago. Many of you witnessed the proposal last Saturday with family & friends. Thank you so much for being there for us. :)

“That’s all cute & good, May, but how did he do it? Get on with it!” Continue reading